TheFraud Examiners Manualwarns against phrasing admissions as direct questions using emotive terms:

“The admission-seeking interview begins with a direct accusation… The accusation should be phrased as though the accused’s guilt has already been established. Emotive words such as steal, fraud, and crime should be avoided… Wrong: ‘Did you do this?’”.

Thus, phrasing the question as“Did you steal the money?”is least effective.